To Fondue or FonDon't

There is something weird going on. Just truly bizarre.  Dating, of late, or what has passed for dating in my world,  has been just plain odd.  There are ups and downs, and friends, we are in a seriously odd valley at the moment.   Statements such as, “my interests are Los Angeles and tattoos” are floated in my general direction.  (Do you mean getting tattoos? Are you a tattoo artist?  How can Los Angeles be one of your interests?  I need more information.   On second thought, no I don’t.)  

Then there was this message I received on the dating site I’m currently using, Plenty of Nothing.com.  It’s super awesome.  This message was unsolicited.  In his profile picture, our hero is wearing a jaunty fedora and what my Grandma used to refer to as “swim trunks.”  I’m sure he thought he was quite adorable. I’m bringing this message to you here, unedited except for a name change, so that you too can enjoy its hilarious weirdness.  It reads:

After a rigorously brief overview of your profile I wanted to let you know I have already married and divorced you in my mind.
Thanks for all the wonderful imaginary memories! You will always have a special place in my heart.

Your ex-hubby,

Big Head Bobby

P.S.
You can keep the dog and Spice Girls CDs, and I will keep the house in Hawaii and the pink Ferrari =)

My immediate thought was, “Shit, what kind of lousy divorce lawyer did I have?!  All I got was the dog and some CD’s, he got the house and a car?!”  And then I regained consciousness.  What the hell was that? I think it was an attempt at humor, and it sure did catch my attention, but I’m going to go out on a limb and say he missed the mark. By a wide margin.  

To think, all this could have been mine

And then there was Mr. FonDon’t. (Like instead of Fondue...FonDon’t, get it...Oh, the charm!  The WIT!!) We exchanged a couple of messages and texts and then he asked me out to dinner.  He seemed sweet, open and charming so I accepted. He suggested fondue, which I found curious because no one had ever suggested that in the past, but when you think about it, it’s a pretty good date.  It gives you a task/activity rather than staring at each other awkwardly if conversation runs dry. The fondue also lead me to believe that he was rather green at this whole dating thing, which I didn’t so much mind, but it was interesting.  I mean, fondue rather than coffee on Elmwood?  Who is this guy?  

I really did envision the need to use a fondue
fork as a shank in the restaurant parking lot.

This is where things get weird and really, really annoying. Cut to two days later, him texting me at 7 AM.  Yep.  7 AM.  Just to say "GOOD MORNING!!!!" With multiple exclamation points, just like that. Bitch please.  I’m a morning person, so perky I can annoy a Barista, but that is a whole new level of wtf.  Then he said he was going to change me to make me like hockey, (???)  then he said he wanted to take me to New York to see a baseball game.  Then he asked me to help him pick out a cat.  Boy, I sure do wish I were kidding about that last one. Please bear in mind that I had not yet met him. Before the cat comment,  I kept asking,  “Isn’t this kinda weird? Do I really have to go out on this date?”  and people around me kept saying, “Maybe he doesn’t do this much. Maybe he’s just a nervous texter. Just see what he’s like in person.”  Then the following conversation took place and I knew all bets were off.  It’s a text conversation between Mr. F and me, interspersed with comments from my dear friend Danielle.  Danielle is my friend most likely to tell me to open myself up to JOY!  And she means it!  She is very encouraging and always wants people to try new things and experiences.  Go meet that new guy!  Try that new hobby!  Go ROLLERSKATING!!!  The second she was fed up with Mr. F, I knew it was O-V-E-R.  The whole thing went something like this:
Mr. F: Do u have any pets??

Me: No, not for a while, though I love dogs.  Do you have pets?

Mr. F:  I’m thinking of getting a cat.  

Me to Danielle: I don’t care about this.  Why am I still talking to him.    

Danielle: You are still talking to him because maybe he is nice in person. And you are a nice person. The real question is why is a single guy getting a cat?  What bachelor pad has a cat? Can you picture a bachelor pad with a cat?  This is odd.  

Me to Danielle: Yeah, I guess, I don’t know that many single guys with cats. I mean, there’s that one guy...

Me to Mr. F: Wow, a cat.

Mr.F: I’m making a pro/con list about whether or not to get a cat.

Me to Mr.F: What are the cons?

Mr.F: There are no cons. That’s it, it’s decided on Saturday I’m going to the SPCA to pick out a roommate.

Danielle: Nope, now I want to punch this guy in the nuts. You know this dude is trying to ask you to help him pick out a cat.  

Me to D: Dear God...

Mr.F: So, I don’t think I’ll be much good at picking out a cat...

Me to D: I’m not responding to this, I may never respond again.  

Following this conversation came more weird comments asking if I was going to have an emergency phone call set to interrupt our date the next day.  How does one respond to this kind of message? I chose to not respond, which I hate doing but really, what do you say?  Yes, my Sicilian cousins will be in the corner ready to tear you limb from limb? No, no one loves me and or cares that I’m out with a stranger from the Internet?  

This person was not doing himself any favors.   It was as if he was just text bombing me with every random thought that came through his mind.  It occurred to me that if he had behaved this way BEFORE asking me to dinner I would never have accepted, so I made the decision to cancel our date. We hadn’t even met yet and I was fielding cat requests and 7 AM texts?  It was all just too much.  He was probably a nice guy, but I don’t think we would have been a match.  In hindsight, I should have shut it down a lot sooner.   Could it have been a magical evening with my soul mate?  Maybe.  Did I save myself from an uncomfortable evening where I  would steal a fondue fork as protection for the walk back to my car.  Possibly.  We will never know.  What I do know is that instead of having fondue with a complete stranger, Danielle and I made fondue, or what we were calling Fun Do, because we’re cool like that and it was delicious. Melted cheese and bread is perfect for a chilly winter’s eve when you are escaping the weirdness of the world. It's better than a stranger's cat any day!  

Cheese Fondue
½ lb Emmenthaler cheese, shredded
½ lb, Gruyere cheese, shredded
2 tablespoon cornstarch
1 clove garlic, halved crosswise
1 cup dry white wine
1 tablespoon lemon juice
1 tablespoon cherry brandy
½ teaspoon dry mustard
Things for dipping: bread, apple, broccoli, carrots, cauliflower, or cubed ham.  

Toss shredded cheeses and cornstarch in ziploc bag and place in freezer.  Rub inside of medium sauce pot with garlic then discard.  Bring wine and lemon juice to slight simmer on medium heat. Ever so slowly, add cheese to wine and stir in zig zag pattern, to prevent it from seizing and balling up.  Do not let cheese boil.  Once it is smooth, add brandy and dry mustard.  Transfer to a fondue pot and serve with dipping items on the side.  Enjoy!  Serves 4.   

A Vision in Goat Cheese

As many of you know, I lost my grandfather this past week.  He was an incredible person and I will miss him terribly.  I am working piece about him, but in the meantime, I wanted to post something that is a break from the sad.  I hope you enjoy!

The Farmer’s Market is my happy place. Weather permitting, I try to go as often as I can and I have my favorite stands. So much culinary potential! One of very favorites sells a PHENOMENAL goat cheese.  To tell you the truth, I liked, but didn’t love, goat cheese until I tried this particular goat cheese and I will tell you why.  There are two reasons.  The first I can’t remember.  The cheese maker/proprietor explained his methods to me but I wasn’t really listening because of the second reason.  The second reason is that he is an extremely good looking goat farmer who makes cheese.  Additionally, he has a brother is A.) also good looking and B.) also raises goats and makes cheese.  It was almost too much for me to bear.  

I don't care what you say,
goats are cute.

I should point out that I was standing there next to my mother, who is a wonderful woman but a lousy wingman, as any good mother should be.  The first time I saw him and walked away with my first 2 oz, $6 container of smoked paprika goat cheese (smoked paprika! Was he reading my diary?!) I began concocting a fantasy about myself ALSO living on a farm and becoming a cheese maker.  This would not be the day I sealed my fate as Mrs. Goat Cheese Farmer (GCF).  Aware that I had not started off on the most alluring foot with my future husband, the goat cheese farmer, as I could not stop staring and saying, “Yummmmm cheeeeese” and my mom was doing the same, (we’re some classy broads)  I knew I needed a fresh, mom-free, start.    

Anyone who knows me well knows that farmer/cheese maker has always been one of two or three dream jobs I like think about from time to time—the others being food writer, chocolatier and a lazy Martha Stewart.  Well, maybe not actually Martha Stewart, more like I could have my own cooking/lifestyle empire but without the minions.  Can you have an empire without minions? I don’t know, I’m getting off topic.

Have I mentioned that I love
smoked paprika?  Because I do. 

It turns out that the first time I saw my GCF also happened to be the last (so far, though my fingers are crossed!)  A few weeks later, I made my triumphant return the market.  Wearing my fabulous new aviator sunglasses that made me feel like a cross between Gloria Steinem and Carrie Bradshaw, I was ready to hit the cheese stand. When I arrived, lips perfectly glossed, hair bouncing in the morning sun, I flashed a grin, looked at the cheese selection, and looked up into the eyes of a 60 year old woman.  Who in the hell was this and where was my goat cheese farmer?!?  I put on lip gloss, dammit!!  I stood there for a few moments, pretending to ruminate over the choices (as if I was going to walk away with anything other than smoked paprika, please) hoping he had just run to the car.  But no, this lady was the cheese reality, dashing the hopes of my cheese fantasy.  I should have asked where, oh where, had the cheese stud gone but I lost my nerve. Feeling deflated, I wandered over to the Butterwood Bakery stand, bought a pastry the size of my head, and ate my feelings.  I still gloss my lips to go to the Farmer’s Market, even if it’s just for me, the 60 year old cheese lady and some beautiful Swiss chard.  Because, hey, why not look your best for some of the finest produce in Western New York. 

Picking out a recipe for this entry was tough.  It should, of course, be goat cheese related, but I find I never have the chance to cook with this particular stuff because I end of eating it straight on crackers or with my bare hands.  Classy.   Instead, I decided to go for a tried and true favorite that would demonstrate the lactose wonderland cheese can create.   I present to you a most favorite grilled cheese sandwich, Gruyere and Apple Grilled Cheese.  It’s the perfect combination of fancy and rustic and it showcases cheese perfectly.  

Here is what you will need:

2 slices of good white bread—think Italian or fine sandwich bread

2-3 very thin, peeled apple slices, preferably the Pink Lady variety.  I like something sweet/tart but something all the way tart would be delicious too

3-4 thin slices Gruyere cheese. This is all a personal preference, depending on how cheesy you like your sandwich.  I like mine very. 

And of course, butter

Heat a frying pan on low heat.  Butter one side of each slice of bread.  Lay butter side down of one slice bread onto warmed frying pan.  Layer apple and cheese, top with second slice of bread, butter side up.  Cover pan, wait about three minutes.  Flip sandwich.  Bread from the bottom should be toasty and brown.  Cover and wait an additional 2-3 minutes, or until the second slice of bread becomes sufficiently brown and toasty. 

Serve and enjoy, preferably with beer.  

Surprise!

What we didn't get for Christmas

Just about the worst thing you can do to me is tell me you have a surprise headed my way. Immediately after this occurs, my mind begins to race with possibilities, one of which will ALWAYS be a puppy.  ALWAYS.  And I am not alone. We recently celebrated my brother's 28th birthday and while ripping open a box, he looked over at me and asked, "Is it a puppy?"  It's genetic.   From the moment I hear "I have a surprise for you" to the moment I'm actually opening said surprise my mind is darting around, from one highly unlikely gift to the next.  "Is it a puppy?  A trip Madrid?  Oooh, I know, my own cheese cave?!?  Oh, a tin of lovingly handcrafted cookies,  I guess that's nice too." 

I am the worst.  

When I was in college, my mother would gleefully inform me she had "put a little surprise in the mail" and I would spend two to three days concocting ideas befitting a third world dictator.  I would think "Hmm, maybe she just sent the dog TAGS through the mail?  The actual puppy will be waiting for me the next time I'm home? Can you airmail a live animal?"  And of course, a tin of delightful and charming cookies would arrive in my mailbox, packed with love and made especially for me.  I small wave of disapointment (no puppy?!) would wash over me but then I would remember that I was lucky and loved and then I would proceed to eat the entire contents of the box.  Yay Mom and yay college!  Did I mention I am the worst?

This Christmas season, my bad habit struck again.  My immediate family gathered to decorate the tree. As we ate some pre-tree pizza, my mom announced she had a surprise for us.  (You would think she would have learned by this point) Immediately the four of us began shouting out ideas.  At once and in unison, my siblings and I blurted out "Is it a puppy?"   We began shouting out alternate ideas,"Matching IPad's? A trip to our German and Italian homelands?"  Uh, no, my parent shook their heads, for some reason taken aback by our wild guessing game.  
My sister's boyfriend raised the possibility of matching track suits. (He has more reasonable high expectations than the rest of us.)  Maybe it was the several pints of craft beer but my siblings and I LOVED this idea!  The discussion took off like a bat out of Guido fashion hell!  It had to be matching track suits!  How could it not be!  In maroon velour for that extra Guido touch!  My mother stared at us in disbelief. What the hell were we talking about?  I could tell by the look on her face that our surprise probably wasn't matching velour track suits but it mattered not.  We were loving the ride. 

Beloved Beaker

When it came time to open our real surprise, we discovered it was a most perfect gift.  An Beaker ornament that plays Ode to Joy.  We love the Muppets and Beaker is a family favorite.   Yet again, yay Mom!   Next year though, it WILL be a very track suit Christmas.

I debated which recipe to include for this entry.  I can often be heard repeating a sentiment first coined by my aunt--"I hate to be surprised by a raisin." I like my raisins to be upfront and in your face, except when it comes to rice pudding, when I like my raisins non existent. So here's to banishing surprises!  (not really.)  I bring you Nigella Lawson's Stovetop Rice Pudding for Emergencies.  This recipe comes is from Nigella Bites, which incidentally is one of my very favorite cookbooks on the planet.  Her cookbooks read like prose and she is generally a dream.  


2 3/4 cups whole milk
1 heaping TB unsalted butter
2-3 TB sugar
1/4 arborio rice
1/2 tsp. vanilla extract
2-3 TB heavy cream. 


She instructs to think of this as a sweet risotto.  Heat the milk in a pan than has a lip.  When it is just about to boil (do not let it boil) turn off the heat.  In a different, heavy based pan, melt the butter and a TB of sugar.  She writes "when hissing away in a glorious play caramelly pool, add the rice and stir to coat stickily."  (is that not genius?) Gradually add the milk, stirring the rice all the time, and letting the milk become absorbed before adding more.  You will see the rice gradually swell throughout the milk-adding process.  Start tasting after about 20 minutes, but it may take as long as 35.  When the rice feels thick and creamy, take it off the heat and add another TB of sugar, the vanilla and as much cream as you like.  Serves 1.  

It's all about chemistry

Proof of my inner mortality

Picture it, Rochester, Thanksgiving Eve, 2011.  My mother, sister and I are spread out in my sister's kitchen preparing the stuffing for the next day's feast.  We were discussing Thanksgiving's past and the newest Muppet movie (outstanding!)   Out of nowhere I announce that I believe that I am dead inside.  My mother, who has the patience of a saint, has heard this one before and ignores me to keep on sauteing.  My sister is also used to my occasional ridiculous questions/tangents/observations but was caught off guard as she was focused on measuring Romano cheese and chopping parsley.  She asked me, "Wait? What?  You were as blunt as if you were giving a weather report.  'Tomorrow it will be forty degrees. Partly cloudy.  I am dead' inside.  Of course you are not dead inside!  You were just singing and dancing along with the MUPPETS! What the hell is going on here?"   So, here's what's going on here... 


Last week, I went out on a series of perfectly normal, nice, even fun dates and I said I would NOT blog about them.  Well, actually, I said I would not blog about the guy.  Slight difference.  I did exactly what I set out to do.  I shut up and dated.  It was successful and stress free. Dare I say even enjoyable.  He was cute,smart and made me laugh.  Here's the kicker though.  There were no sparks.  I mean zero.  NONE.  We went out twice, because I wanted to make sure there wasn't even a glimmer of something resembling a spark.  On the second date we went to the movies and I spent the whole time making sure I wasn't touching the arm rest because I didn't want him to think I was making overtures and have him reach for my hand or worse, my knee! Had that happened I then I would have had to awkwardly get up to go to the bathroom. Yeah, a bit out of control but the point is, he was a very nice guy and I didn't want to inadvertently do something silly and hurt his feelings.  You know, like jump up out my chair in the middle of the movie and blurt out "NO thank you." Because it's hard to recover from something like that.   

I was not blinded by science

I just wasn't feeling it.  Which I realize is fine.  You aren't going to spark with every guy that comes your way, which I good because I can barely imagine how exhausting that would be.   All of that is well and good.  It's what comes next that got me thinking.  Here is this perfectly nice man and I can barely summon a "meh" from inside my soul. Meanwhile approximately five months ago, lesser specimen sent my heart a-racin.  Why?   Why would my subconscious think a jerkface is A-OK but not this seemingly sweet man?  What's up, soul?   The short answer is who the hell knows?  It's chemistry, baby.  I could choose to drive myself crazy, or I can continue to shut up and date.   This time around, it's shut up and date. 


With chemistry on the brain, today's recipe is Sponge Candy!  Sponge candy is science at it's most delicious!  It's the baking soda/vinegar volcano of your 4th grade science class dipped in chocolate and given away as a Christmas gift!  


Ingredients:
1 cup sugar
1 cup dark corn syrup
1 TB white vinegar
1 TB baking soda




Line 9 inch square pan with foil, leaving 2 inching hanging off of sides and coat foil with butter. Combine sugar, corn syrup and vinegar in large, deep sauce pan. Stir over med. heat until sugar dissolves. Continue cooking without stirring until candy thermometer reads 300 degrees swirling pan occasionally, about 18 minutes. Remove from heat.  Immediately add baking soda and stir until well combined.  Immediately pour into prepared pan and cool completely. 


Use foil to lift candy from pan. Fold foil down sides.  Cut or break candy into pieces.  Dip into melted chocolate.  Let set completely before storing.  Can be made 1 week ahead of time.  

The German Shepherd Theory

So some of you may not know that when I moved back to Buffalo, more than just my relationship changed, my career trajectory changed as well.  When things finally ended with my long time love and I headed back to Buffalo,  I was pursing a graduate degree in history. I returned to Buffalo and the plan was to get a job, any job with benefits that would keep my mind minimally engaged and I would write my dissertation.  Fast forward two years, and things have not quite gone to plan.  It turns out, I don't want to write a dissertation.  I may never have wanted to write a one.  I'm not sure, the revelations just keep coming.

As for my job, let me stress, first and foremost, that I work for a wonderful place where people strive everyday to make the world a better place and, largely, they succeed.  Secondly, I have met some of the most wonderful people I have ever encountered in my life. Friends I hope to keep for the rest of my life and some of the smartest, most kind, dedicated humans anyone will ever have the good fortune to encounter.  What's more, in this economy, I am grateful to be employed.  So you see, it could be so much worse. It's just that well, my job, the work that I do, doesn't quite keep my particular intellectual fire burning.   And I'm not quite sure what I want to do.  What do I want to contribute?    

This German has career goals! 

SO what happens when your former career goals are maybe no longer what you want, your current job isn't doing the trick and you are feeling a bit adrift?  Well, in this instance, I think I've figured out that my mind is starved for activity.  It's jumping onto the next, new bits of information I've been introducing, which in some instances is dating related.  Rather than analyzing primary source historical data, I'm OVER analyzing text messages, phone messages, and comments over dinner.  In short, my current career conundrum is what's allowing me such easy passage to Crazytown.   I'm like a German Shepherd left in a two room apartment all day long.  German Shepherds are very smart dogs and left without a job to do, they will find their own activities.   Activities like barking incessantly or eating the couch.  This realization left me feeling both chilled and freed.  "Bad dog!  Stop destroying your furniture!  Good dog!  Free your brain from Crazytown and get moving!"  


So what's next?  I'm not really sure.  But as I continue to figure out my next step, I'm hoping that this realization keeps me from eating another proverbial couch cushion.  And speaking of eating, this entry's recipe is German Chocolate Cake!  Combining chocolate, coconut goop and pecans, it happens to be my favorite of all the chocolate cakes.  This recipe comes from The Joy of Cooking, which I simply refer to as The JOC:


Preheat oven to 350 degrees.  Grease and flour two 9x2 inch round pans.  
Sift together: 
2 1/14 cups sifted cake flour
1 tsp baking soda
1/2 tsp salt


Combine and stir until chocolate is melted and smooth:
4 oz sweet baking chocolate, finely chopped. 
1/2 cup boiling water


Combine:
1 cup buttermilk or soup cream
1 tsp vanilla


In large bowl , beat until creamy:
2 sticks unsalted butter


Gradually add and beat on high speed until lightened in color and texture, 4-6 mins:
1 3/4cups sugar
 Beat in one at a time
4 large egg yolks


Add the melted chocolate and beat just until incorporated.  Add the flour mixture in 3 parts, alternating with buttermilk mixture in 2 parts, beating on low speed, or stirring with rubber spatula, until smooth.  In another bowl, beat on med speed until soft peaks form, 
4 large egg whites
scant 1/4 tsp cream of tartar
Gradually add beating on high speed
1/4 cup of sugar
Beat until peaks are stiff but not dry.  Use rubber spatula to fold one quarter of the egg whites into the egg yolk mixture, then fold in the remaining whites.  Divide batter among pans  and bake until toothpick comes out clean, 25-30 minutes.  Let cool in pans on rack for 10 minutes.  Remove cake from pans and let cake cool completely.  Fill center with Coconut Pecan Filling, leaving sides bare. 


For Coconut Pecan Filling, combine in med sauce pan, 1 cup sugar
1 cup evaporated milk, heavy cream or half and half
3 large eggs
8 tablespoons unsalted butter cut into pieces. 
Cook stirring constantly, over med heat, until mixture is thickened and bubbling gently around the edges.  Reduce the heat to low and cook, stirring, for 1-2 minutes more.  Remove from heat and stir in:
1 1/3 cup flaked sweetened dried coconut
1 1/3 cup chopped pecans
Let cool until spreadable.  


There is another recipe I heartily enjoy from David Lebovitz, who lives in Paris, is amazing and I love him.

Shut Up and Date

I have hit a plateau.  It's my pattern.  I have one or two or four bad experiences in a row and get burnt out and then I give up on dating for brief period, a month or two.  It's not that I return to the ways of Sloth Janelle (though, with the winter months returning, an end to shaving does sound appealing, am I right ladies? high five?  Ok, maybe not) but I shut down the dating section of my brain and focus on my DVR, bake up a storm and throw my self into a hobby I usually quit after a month (blogging, par example.)  

"See how they hug each toe?" Ugh.

I'm in the middle distance of said pattern at the moment.  Whenever I find myself in one of these "dating shut down" modes, I keep replaying in my mind the trials of previous dates from HELL.  "Oh GOD, what if he repeatedly asks me to join him in his hot tub on the first date?  ICK!  What if he doesn't stop talking about toe shoes?!"  (Don't think ballet shoes, but instead picture a gorilla's foot dipped in space aged polymer rubber and then sold as shoes.  One particular gentleman loved them dearly and spoke of them excessively.  He had several pairs.  They were his Facebook profile picture.  This is is not a joke.)  Why do I keep banging my head against the proverbial wall?" 


Perhaps a better question may be, why am I such a drama queen?  Sure these dates are no fun and, yes, I come home convinced I will die alone but who doesn't? (Right?)   So this time around, I'm taking up a new mantra--Shut Up and Date. Subtext: even if it's lame it will make a good blog entry.  Henceforth I will get to know a person before I become a judgy bitch.  Who knows, it's possible Mr. Toe Shoes is currently blogging about me, the girl who refused to open her mind to five toe comfort.  


As I've gotten older, I've realized the importance of keeping an open heart/mind.  Not like they talk about in after school specials but more in a real " you can't plan everything/sometimes things work out the way they are supposed to/be open to the plans of the Universe" sort of a way.  So moving forward, I vow to keep this in mind and will try to stick to my mantra and just Shut Up and Date.  Over analyze I will not.  My visits to Crazytown will be few and far between--perhaps only to pick up a postcard or two.


In honor of those gorilla feet, this time I bring you a recipe for Monkey Bread.  Now, normally I do not advocate the use of canned biscuit dough but Monkey Bread is one of those rare foods that can actually be BETTER when made from pre-made, pre-canned dough.  If you are looking for the real deal, I would suggest checking out Smitten Kitchen, one of the best food blogs on the planet.  She makes her own dough and covers the whole thing in a cream cheese glaze.  Yes please! That said, here is the good old fashioned, classic, American Pillsbury version:


1/2 cup granulated sugar
1 tsp cinnamon
2 cans biscuit dough
1/2 cup chopped walnuts
1/2 raisins, if desired, which I never do.
1 cup firmly packed brown sugar
3/4 cup butter, melted. 


Directions:
Heat oven to 350 degrees.  Lightly grease fluted Bundt pan. In large ziploc bag, combine granulated sugar and cinnamon.  Separate dough into biscuits and cut each into quarters.  Shake in bag to coat. Arrange in greased pan, adding walnuts.  Mix the brown sugar and butter and pour over biscuit pieces.  Bake 28 to 32 minutes, till middle no longer doughy.  Turn upside down on to serving platter, pull apart to serve.  Serve warm.  

Oh the things you'll learn...

Two years ago this past weekend I moved back to Buffalo.  I drove back home in my trusty Honda Civic, the backseat overflowing with kitchen gadgets and cookbooks and sweaters and history texts, all the while singing Ani DiFranco songs at the top of my lungs. The previous two years of my life had been rather transient, moving from one coast to another, from a smaller apartment to a larger and in a sense, this felt like just another move. It wasn't until I got on the open road that the magnitude of this move really hit me.  I was leaving and not going back.  Whoa.

As with many things, what was one of the most emotionally trying experiences of my life was also one of the most educational.  In the intervening years I have learned a number of lessons  but as I reflect on where I've been and think about where I'm going the following three truly stand out.  I realize they may sound cheesy and more than a little cliche that is sort of my point.  To me, they were just words I had heard 4 million times before until I lived experiences that made them oh so real. So then, without further ado...

It's just cruel to deny a Polish
Buffalonian her butter lamb. 

1.)  Never say never.  Or always say maybe. Simply put, anything is possible. Things are going to happen that you may not want to believe--"jeggings" for example, or the fact that your dad wanted sushi for Easter dinner ("no butter lamb?!?"),  but you must push through and remember that every challenge could be an opportunity.  However you think about it, keep your mind and your heart open, go with the flow and don't fight the universe.  For reals.

2.) Love is love.  I can't take credit for this gem--this is the punch line from a story shared between one of my closest friends, his bestest bestie and a Rite Aid clerk. Intriguing, right?   The point is, it doesn't matter if it's your partner, your siblings or best friends, if you have love in your life, you are lucky and should be grateful.  If you waste all of you energy searching for what you think you want, you will miss out on what you have.  Tell those you love that you love them.

3.) And last but certainly not least, ladies, your 30's rock. They flat out rock!  When I turned 30, the quality of my life improved so substantially, I kind of want to write a song about it.  A kick ass song about aging!  Doesn't that sound fun! Well, maybe not, but seriously, my decision making abilities improved, and I became a  much braver, more emboldened sassypants who learned to like her body and ask for the things she wanted.  Well, some of the things she wants anyways.  Though, all of this does not happen over night.  One must learn from the mistakes of their 20's (mistakes like almost marrying the wrong guy) in order to reap the rewards of their 30's. And, here's hoping our 40's and 50's continue to shine :)

So yeah, you may be able to find these ideas on the front cover of any women's magazine, but for me their discovery was hard won. And on days when I want to celebrate a victory I turn to red meat (how's that for a segue!)  Today's recipe is for grilled flank steak, one of my very favorite cuts of meat.   Also, this is so damn easy, it's barely a recipe. If you don't a have a grill, or during the winter months when you are too wussy to use your grill, this can be done on the in a pan on the stove top.  If cooked and sliced properly, it is delicious.  If not, it tough and chewy.  You can serve this on its own or in sandwiches or tacos. Yum!

Grilled Flank Steak--serves 3-4
1 flank steak (about 1 pound)
Extra virgin olive oil
salt
pepper

Heat grill to high.  Rub both sides of steak with olive oil and season liberally with salt and pepper.  Grill 5-7 minutes per side for medium rare.  Do not overcook or steak will become tough.  Let steak rest for 10 minutes under tented foil.  After meat has rested, thinly slice steak across the grain (I cannot stress the importance of this step enough) and serve.